The World Health Organization reports that social isolation and loneliness are increasingly being recognised as a priority public health problem and policy issue across all age groups.
Our feature article presents some places in our church where people are finding new ways to build community by reaching out to people around them. While such outreach may focus on a special need that has been identified, in each situation that sense of community is providing people places to be with other people and to become less lonely with lasting benefits for everyone as they get to know each other.
Are we also aware of the many benefits from in-reach in our church? Do we appreciate how the friendly chatter before and after worship is a joyful noise that enriches us as much as inspiring preludes and postludes? Such things all help to create community and help to overcome the loneliness many are feeling.
A friendly greeting when a person comes to worship, member or visitor, can be a healing tonic for a lonely person.
In one congregation I served, before the service, one person cheerfully offered hugs to anyone who wanted one. A significant number of those who came deeply appreciated his offer and entered the worship space with big smiles on their faces after he hugged them. For some, it was the only time in their week where anyone ever touched them. (A word of caution: an unwanted, uninvited hug is never welcome nor appropriate.)
Many congregations offer a time for fellowship before or after worship. It’s sometime called the third sacrament. It’s a space where friendships are made, strengthened and renewed, week after week.
At the same time, we sometimes complain that they are a bunch of holy huddles. While they can be a blessing, it can also be a daunting experience to walk into a room full of people who you don’t know and feel very lonely. The sainted vigilant among us often take time to notice and make such people feel welcome.
Some congregations have tapped into technology to include those who are unable to attend events in-person to help them participate in meaningful ways. This continues to provide opportunities yet to be strengthened or explored.
There are also times when we are lonely, when we need to make the first move. Sometimes it can begin with something as simple mustering up a bit of courage and turning to the person next to you and saying “hi”.
GLIMPSES
Reconciliation, treaty and covenant (p. 15) offers understanding of the importance of building relationships on the path to reconciliation.
The wounded family (p. 9)—learning to break the denial of mental health that seems embedded in many faith communities.
The season of Lent begins with turning our hearts and lives to the One who comes (p. 21).
Where does Jesus meet you in your life these days (p. 31)?
Kenn Ward
Editor
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